….and I don’t mean Vegas! Hubby is going for the Big V tomorrow.
We both know that we are done having kids so it’s the right thing to do. We’ve got the “Million Dollar Family”, what more could we ask for? Two kids is perfect….if we had another, we’d:
Need a bigger car/truck -there’s no room with the dog in one seat, lol
Need a bigger house – we only have 3 bedrooms
Need more money – daycare is expensive, yo!
We made the appointment in October at #2’s one month appointment. Hubby was the one that brought it up to me, mentioned it to the Dr, booked the appointment. I love that it wasn’t me pressuring him to do it.
Why the rush? #1 took years and fertility meds to conceive….#2? Conceived her when #1 was 9 months old and I was still breastfeeding. I know BF’ing isn’t birth control…but assumed I’d need meds again. So…we don’t want a repeat of that!
Or do I? I’m sitting here thinking about…what if? What if we (I) do want another? I know I’m just being silly….but it’s so final. Done. Done. Done. I’ve given away the baby clothes, but you can re-buy those if you need them again…
I hope it goes well! I think every mom goes through what you’re thinking. I’ve always thought I wanted 2 or 3 kids, but now I have no idea. The idea of 2 is already daunting to me, but I’m still thinking 3! I’m totally crazy!! *hugs*
I knew for my second child that I was going to have to have a c-section so I was able to have a tubal ligation at the same time. I requested it. And then changed my mind. A few times. It’s a big decision! I went for it and 15 months later I don’t regret it…but make sure it’s what you want.
I might as well have written this as we’re thinking along exactly the same lines. I haven’t been able to bring myself to give away the baby clothes yet though…
Oh it isn’t really final, he can have a reversal if you guys decided to have more…
A vasectomy can be reversed pretty easily. In fact, it’s not all that uncommon for spontaneous reversal to occur – ie: all by itself with no medical intervention. I guess what I’m saying is, don’t panic that you will never be able to change your mind. At least this will give you some peace of mind regarding the possibility of having back-to-back-to-back pregnancies.
We’ve had this discussion, too, and for me the big V is just not an option. My reasoning is morbid – I just think, what if something happened to myself and the kids or our relationship ended and my husband moved on with someone who wants their own kids? I know, I know … the big “what if”. I guess I consider my reasoning insurance as V reversal may not be successful for everyone.
I would be so nervous making that decision! But you will know when its the right time to do it. You do have the million dollar family though!!